When You Cannot Make the Decision
For the choice you have been turning over for weeks without landing anywhere. It helps you work out what you are actually weighing, set yourself a deadline, and make the call without needing certainty you are never going to get.
Decisions · Decision Making · Worry · 8 items · whenever you need it
The checklist
- Write the decision as one plain question — half the stall is not knowing what is being asked.
- Give yourself a date to decide by — an open choice takes up room until it has an end.
- Name what you are afraid of either way — fear is usually the thing doing the deciding.
- Write what you would tell a friend in this spot — advice comes out clearer for someone else.
- Ask which option you can undo — a reversible choice needs far less thinking.
- Decide what facts would actually change your mind — otherwise more research is only delay.
- Tell one person which way you are leaning — saying it out loud tends to settle it.
- Make the call and stop reopening it — rehearsing a settled choice costs more than living with it.
Use this checklist Free account: tick items off and keep each day's record.
How to use it
Run through it whenever you need it, honestly and without scoring yourself. A checklist is a way of noticing, not a test: an item you cannot tick is information about the day, not a verdict on you. Over a few weeks the pattern of what gets ticked and what does not says more than any single pass.
With a free Theraglee account the checklist remembers each pass, so you can look back. Without one, you can still read it here and keep your own copy.