Articles about Emotion Regulation
13 free articles, newest first. Every one is a few minutes long, written in plain language, and open to everyone with no account.
When You Keep Buying Things to Feel Better
The lift lasts four minutes and the feeling is still there. What the buying is actually doing, where to put friction so willpower is not the plan, and why shame is fuel…
The Message You Are About to Send
It is written, it is accurate, and some part of you knows it will cost you. How to put a gap between the feeling and the send button, and what to do with the message…
Going Somewhere Else in the Middle of an Argument
Halfway through a disagreement you go flat and far away, and afterward cannot remember what either of you said.
When Everything Feels Too Loud
The strip lights, the radio, somebody chewing, three people needing you at once. What sensory overload is, how to get out of it quickly, and how to have fewer of these…
The Shoulds You Carry Around
I should be further on. I should not need this much rest. Why rules that sound like standards tend to produce guilt rather than action, and how to turn one into…
Crying More Easily Than You Used To
An advert, a small kindness, a song in the car. When tears start arriving at nothing in particular, it is usually telling you something about your capacity rather than…
Naming What You Feel
Bad, stressed and fine cover a lot of ground. Why putting a more exact word to a feeling changes it, and how to do that when you have no idea what you feel.
Doing the Opposite of What the Feeling Tells You
Sadness says stay in bed, fear says avoid, shame says hide. When the urge does not fit the situation, acting against it changes the feeling faster than arguing with it.
When an Urge Feels Impossible to Sit With
You want to send the message, open the bottle, quit on the spot, or do the thing you will regret. What to do in the twenty minutes when the pull is at its strongest.
How to Hold Two Opposite Feelings at Once
You love them and you are furious. You want to go and you want to stay. The mind insists you pick one. What changes when you stop, and how to practice holding both.
How to Forgive Without Pretending It Did Not Happen
Forgiveness gets confused with excusing, forgetting, or letting someone back in. It is none of those.
How to Wait Out an Urge
The urge to send the text, pour the drink, pick the fight, or check the app feels like it will not stop until you give in. It will.
What Your Anger Is Trying to Tell You
Anger gets treated as a problem to suppress. It is actually a messenger, and it usually arrives with something worth hearing.