Articles about Self-Compassion
13 free articles, newest first. Every one is a few minutes long, written in plain language, and open to everyone with no account.
Spending Money on Yourself
You can buy for everyone else and freeze at anything for you. Where that comes from, how to tell real constraint from a rule you absorbed, and how to spend without the…
When You Are Sure You Are a Burden
The thought that people would be better off without you feels like a plain fact. Where that belief comes from, why it is so convincing, and what to do with it tonight.
The Foggy Hour After You Come Back
The spaced-out feeling has passed and you are wrung out, slow, and vaguely ashamed. What the hour after dissociation needs, what makes it worse, and how to use it…
Being Kind to Yourself Without Lying to Yourself
Positive affirmations feel false and self-criticism feels true. A middle option: saying the accurate thing about how you feel, which works better than either.
Going to the Gym When You Feel Watched
The mirrors, the people who clearly know what they are doing, the machine you cannot work out. Why gyms feel exposing, and how to use one anyway.
Clearing Out Their Things
The wardrobe, the shed, the handwriting on a shopping list. Why sorting a person's belongings is harder than anyone warns you, and how to do it at a pace you can bear.
Hating Photographs of Yourself
A photo comes up and your stomach drops. Why a picture lands so much harder than a mirror, what the checking afterward does, and how to stay in the pictures anyway.
Starting Again After a Long Gap
You stopped six months ago and have not been back. Why returning is harder than beginning, and how to come back to something without having to explain yourself first.
Eating Alone at the End of a Hard Day
You get home depleted and eat standing up, or not at all, or in a blur in front of a screen. Why the evening meal collapses first, and small ways to make it something…
The Thing You Have Never Told Anyone
Most people carry something they have never said out loud. Why the keeping is often heavier than the thing itself, and how to begin setting it down without telling the…
How to Build a Habit That Survives a Bad Week
You start strong, miss a few days, and quietly give up. The habit was never the problem. What you do after you slip is. How to build routines that bend instead of break.
Shame and Guilt Are Not the Same Feeling
Guilt says you did something wrong. Shame says something is wrong with you. Learning to tell the two apart can change how you talk to yourself after a mistake.
How to Talk Back to Your Inner Critic
The harsh voice in your head is not the truth and not your conscience. It is a habit. Here is where it comes from, why arguing with it fails, and what to say instead.