When Someone at Work Treats You Badly
For the point where someone at work has gone past rudeness and you are starting to doubt yourself. It gets the incidents written down with dates, the policy read before you report, one person told outside work, and a line set for when to leave.
Bullying · Work · Assertiveness · Self-Esteem · 9 items · whenever you need it
The checklist
- Write down each incident with the date and the words used — a pattern on paper is what other people can act on.
- Keep that record somewhere that is not their system — a work laptop can stop being yours overnight.
- Name one person who saw it — a second account turns your word into a record.
- Read your employer's policy before you report anything — knowing the steps stops them being used on you.
- Answer in writing wherever you can — an email leaves a trail that a corridor conversation does not.
- Separate what they said from what you believe about yourself — how they act is information about them.
- Tell one person outside work what is happening — carrying it alone is what makes it start to feel deserved.
- Find out what your options are elsewhere — a live alternative changes how it feels to stay.
- Decide what would make you leave and write it down — a line set in advance is harder to talk yourself past.
Use this checklist Free account: tick items off and keep each day's record.
How to use it
Run through it whenever you need it, honestly and without scoring yourself. A checklist is a way of noticing, not a test: an item you cannot tick is information about the day, not a verdict on you. Over a few weeks the pattern of what gets ticked and what does not says more than any single pass.
With a free Theraglee account the checklist remembers each pass, so you can look back. Without one, you can still read it here and keep your own copy.