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Reaching Out to People

For when your circle has gone quiet or you have been keeping to yourself. Each day is one small, low-pressure way to reconnect with someone, so contact becomes easier again.

Connection · Relationships · Loneliness · one to-do a day · you choose how many days

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The first seven days

Day 1Send a two-line message to someone you have not spoken to in a month, just to say hello.
Day 2Ask one person today a question about their life and listen to the whole answer.
Day 3Say good morning to a neighbor, a barista, or a coworker and use their name if you know it.
Day 4Reply to a message you have been putting off, even with just a few words.
Day 5Call a family member for five minutes with no agenda.
Day 6Tell someone about one small thing that happened to you today.
Day 7Invite someone for a walk, a coffee, or a video call sometime this week.

Further into the year

The to-dos keep changing as the year goes on. A few from later in this theme:

Day 30Look at the list of people you contacted during this challenge and pick one to keep in closer touch with.
Day 60Post a genuine question in an online community you belong to and reply to whoever answers.
Day 120Recommend a book, show, or recipe to a friend and ask them to tell you what they think.
Day 240Set up a shared photo album or group chat for a small circle of friends and add the first photo.
Day 365Pick one person from this year of reaching out and tell them what their company has meant to you.

How a challenge works

A Theraglee challenge is a theme with one small to-do for every day of a year. You choose how long yours runs, anywhere from a week to the full year, and each day you get the next to-do: something that takes a few minutes and fits inside an ordinary day. Tick it off when it is done. Nothing is scored and nothing is lost if you miss a day; the next to-do is simply waiting when you come back.

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