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Being Kinder with Your Partner
For couples who love each other and still slip into snapping, scorekeeping or taking each other for granted. Each day is one small, kind thing to say or do for your partner, so warmth gets a regular place in the everyday.
Relationships · Relationships · Communication · one to-do a day · you choose how many days
The first seven days
- Day 1When your partner first comes into the room today, stop what you are doing, look up and greet them warmly by name.
- Day 2Before one of you leaves the house today, say a real goodbye with eye contact instead of calling it over your shoulder.
- Day 3Name one specific thing your partner did this week that made your life easier, and thank them for it out loud.
- Day 4Make your partner a cup of coffee or tea the way they like it, without being asked.
- Day 5Notice how this relationship feels for you, and know this: if it ever involves fear, threats or harm, you deserve support, and you can reach out to a trusted person or a domestic violence hotline.
- Day 6Ask your partner how their day went, then put down whatever you are holding and listen to the whole answer.
- Day 7Think of something your partner mentioned recently, a worry, a plan or a funny story, and ask them how it turned out.
Further into the year
The to-dos keep changing as the year goes on. A few from later in this theme:
- Day 30Tell your partner one quality of theirs you hope rubs off on you.
- Day 60Laugh at your partner's joke, even an old one, and let them see you enjoy it.
- Day 120Look for the funny side of a small household mishap with your partner instead of placing blame.
- Day 240Keep a small treat your partner likes on hand for a day when they need a lift.
- Day 365Tell your partner, simply and sincerely, that you're glad they're your partner.
How a challenge works
A Theraglee challenge is a theme with one small to-do for every day of a year. You choose how long yours runs, anywhere from a week to the full year, and each day you get the next to-do: something that takes a few minutes and fits inside an ordinary day. Tick it off when it is done. Nothing is scored and nothing is lost if you miss a day; the next to-do is simply waiting when you come back.
Challenges come with a free Theraglee account, which never asks for a card. Your progress stays private to you.